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Love is not a relationship.

Love relates, but it is not a relationship. A relationship is something finished. A relationship is a noun; the full stop has come, the honeymoon is over. Now there is no joy, no enthusiasm, now all is finished.

You can carry it on, just to keep your promises. You can carry it on because it is comfortable, convenient, cozy. You can carry it on because there is nothing else to do. You can carry it on because if you disrupt it, it is going to create much trouble for you.

Relationship means something complete, finished, closed. Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues. It is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun.

And why do we reduce the beauty of relating to relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? — because to relate is insecure, and relationship is a security, relationship has a certainty. Relating is just a meeting of two strangers, maybe just an overnight stay and in the morning we say goodbye. Who knows what is going to happen tomorrow?

And we are so afraid that we want to make it certain, we want to make it predictable. We would like tomorrow to be according to our ideas; we don’t allow it freedom to have its own say. So we immediately reduce every verb to a noun.

You are in love with a woman or a man and immediately you start thinking of getting married. Make it a legal contract. Why? How does the law come into love? The law comes into love because love is not there. It is only a fantasy, and you know the fantasy will disappear. Before it disappears settle down, before it disappears do something so it becomes impossible to separate.

In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment spread over the earth, people will love, love immensely, but their love will remain a relating, not a relationship. And I am not saying that their love will be only momentary. There is every possibility their love may go deeper than your love, may have a higher quality of intimacy, may have something more of poetry and more of God in it. And there is every possibility their love may last longer than your so-called relationship ever lasts. But it will not be guaranteed by the law, by the court, by the policeman.

The guarantee will be inner. It will be a commitment from the heart, it will be a silent communion. If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more.

And there are a few flowers of love which bloom only after long intimacies. There are seasonal flowers too; within six weeks they are there in the sun, but within six weeks again they are gone forever. There are flowers which take years to come, and there are flowers which take many years to come. The longer it takes, the deeper it goes.

But it has to be a commitment from one heart to another heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment; eye to eye, heart to heart, being to being. It has to be understood, not said.

It is so ugly seeing people going to the church or the court to get married. It is so ugly, so inhuman. It simply shows they can’t trust themselves, they trust the policeman more than they trust their own inner voice. It shows they can’t trust their love, they trust the law.

Forget relationships and learn how to relate. Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted. That’s what destroys all love affairs. The woman thinks she knows the man, the man thinks he knows the woman. Nobody knows either. It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery. And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful.

To think that you know your wife is very very ungrateful. How can you know the woman? How can you know the man? They are processes, they are not things. The woman that you knew yesterday is not there today. So much water has gone down the Ganges; she is somebody else, totally different. Relate again, start again, don’t take it for granted.

And the man that you slept with last night, look at his face again in the morning. He is no more the same person, so much has changed. So much, incalculably much, has changed. That is the difference between a thing and a person. The furniture in the room is the same, but the man and the woman, they are no more the same. Explore again, start again. That’s what I mean by relating.

Relating means you are always starting, you are continuously trying to become acquainted. Again and again, you are introducing yourself to each other. You are trying to see the many facets of the other’s personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm of inner feelings, into the deep recesses of his being. You are trying to unravel a mystery which cannot be unraveled.

That is the joy of love: the exploration of consciousness. And if you relate, and don’t reduce it to a relationship, then the other will become a mirror to you. Exploring him, unawares you will be exploring yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and then love becomes a meditation. Relationship is ugly, relating is beautiful.

In relationship both persons become blind to each other. Just think, how long has it been since you saw your wife eye to eye? How long has it been since you looked at your husband? Maybe years. Who looks at one’s own wife? You have already taken it for granted that you know her. What more is there to look at? You are more interested in strangers than in the people you know — you know the whole topography of their bodies, you know how they respond, you know everything that has happened is going to happen again and again. It is a repetitive circle.

It is not so, it is not really so. Nothing ever repeats; everything is new every day. Just your eyes become old, your assumptions become old, your mirror gathers dust and you become incapable of reflecting the other.

Hence I say relate. By saying relate, I mean remain continuously on a honeymoon. Go on searching and seeking each other, finding new ways of loving each other, finding new ways of being with each other. And each person is such an infinite mystery, inexhaustible, unfathomable, that it is not possible that you can ever say, “I have known her,” or, “I have known him.” At the most you can say, “I have tried my best, but the mystery remains a mystery.”

In fact the more you know, the more mysterious the other becomes. Then love is a constant adventure.

~ Osho


From beyond knowing you emerge into being.

Having released all that you were before you enter this new domain of life shimmering!  Luminous. Transparent. Radiant, crystalline-carrying codes and knowledge and your own cosmic blueprint — and find yourself newly formed by gravity, heat, light and willingness upon a new frontier.

In this land of emerging potentials, the Law of One is the law of the land. Inter-IS-ness is experientially valued and love is abundantly available! Now, let us commence the work at hand. Very little exists in form here. In order for the entire system which is YOU which is EARTH to tip, in one spontaneous moment into residency here, we will need, together and individually to get about the business of creating.

There are three things which you must do in order to fulfill your new role as a renegade settler of the new earth:

1.    Protect Your Energy

2.    Listen to your Divine Light within for Inspiration

3.    Affirm and celebrate one another

That’s it! That’s actually a lot.

Let’s open up and enter into a new relationship with BE-ing which is coming forth and is online for you to tap into, download and commence upon completion of the key aspects of prior phases: integration of BE-ing rather than DO-ing (choose more do less); integration with the Unified Field and re-connection with your divine soul blueprint.

Protecting your energy is increasingly important.

As the dynamics on Earth become increasingly dynamic you will find those who exist on the energy of others finding it more and more difficult and their experience will intensify. As individual focus points of light become fully resourced from within and sovereign in nature, you will not be as available to others in terms of donating and actually “leaking” your energy to them through being triggered and excited by their usual and truthfully—unconscious—antics deeply embedded to provide them with access to life energy.

They would only experience a deepening of shame to realize they are doing so; let them discover this on their own.

But for YOU, Lightworkers, having awoken in this new, spacious land, it is time to realize that you will indeed want to be a source of energy flowing from the Great Central Sun and into form without distraction.  There is much to be done!

A civilization is evaluated by its wholeness. You have participated many times in the Earth’s civilization and as such this is in part why you are here now and why you did so, all rolled up in one!  You came many times to prepare for now, you are here now because you have so many ideas and observations from your other experiences here that you see great opportunity for creativity, innovation, harmonizing…for flavoring the Earth soup exquisitely and subtly, such that it is nourishing and palatable for all!

This civilization you will shape and extend into structure, process, networks of connectivity and patterns of communication, alignment, BE-ing and co-creation is but a single celled organism now.  As with all life, it exists holus-bolus!  In its entirety, and yet the diversification the specificity of this wholeness depends on the uniqueness and the cosmic blueprint which is you.

Begin to consider the elemental qualities of experience one might see in the New Earth from a distance. The peaceful qualities of a beautiful blue and green planet, flowing into culture and civilization that amplify, diversify and yet maintain this amazing beauty of life, abundance, balance, movement—which are visible from afar—this is the orienting vision for you to play with.

Listen to Your Divine Light from Within

You can confidently trust yourself – having become profoundly aligned with the Zero-Point you are increasingly in great if not full alignment with the Unified Field.

Your Divine Soul Presence communicates to you in dreams, meditation and in simple urgings arising as desires and inspiration. Trust your light flowing from within and BE as a force of the Universe; activate potential and energy to initiate the process of convergence into form and human experience.  Bring forth that which makes your heart soar!

Trust that what is glorious for you is indeed a blissful experience for many others and give life to new forms and consciousness; pave the way for happiness and well-being in our New Earth! And so Magicians of the New Earth: take out your wands! Give birth to all that makes sense to you.  Do not doubt!  Do not hesitate!  Light loves speed…so flow and be fed more energy!  If you make “mistakes” re-create and re-vise!  Commence the creation of the New Earth templates for civilization and culture.

Affirm and Celebrate one another!

There are many more Earth angels coming to join you.  Some are still deeply resting.  Some are deep in intensity which will be the catalyst to their awakening.  Some look and long to be where you are.  Some know where you are is merely an arm’s length away and within no time, they will join you.

But YOU, you know who you are. You for whom ease, abundance, clarity and light are flowing consistently into your experience and for whom this 10-10-10 portal found you awakening to see an entirely new person in the mirror, YOU have work to do.  The stuff you came here for!  Realize that each of you is experiencing this process perfectly as you chose and continue to choose.  Celebrate and affirm one another.  Play your part to the hilt.  Love all the others in the game with you and realize the beauty of their performance.

The Law of One, which liberates so much, including the emergence of completion, informs all that you are, sense, wish to act upon and enjoy. You have rewired your body, mind and emotional nature and aligned all of this with Spirit.  For you matter will start to open up and reveal it’s inner essence as energy!  As you begin to know matter directly as consciousness, this consciousness and energy flows into your body cells carrying explicit information and loads of energy.

Your life will be somewhat incomprehensible to others, as you elevate different rule apply to your entire experience. Do not become too enamored with all of this.  Embrace and appreciate the role you have chosen in preparing and laying the groundwork for the New Earth. Do not become distracted by those who cannot relate to your experience or who question it.  Know that your presence, your clarity creates a momentary restoration of order, of wholeness in anyone who is lost or at the time of your encounter confused.  Rest in this.

You will be living from a place of great security and personal power.  You are beyond external validation; trust your inner knowing and commence the creation of the new culture reflecting here on Earth your sense of love, unity and beauty.  Order longs to converge with energy; you are the missing dancer in the dance! The music has started. Celebrate joyously your outrageous new beginning!

~ © Meredith Murphy |


Didn’t Want To Hurt You

I often hear this from clients:

“I didn’t tell my wife I was unhappy because I didn’t want to hurt her.”

“I haven’t told my children I’m sick because I don’t want them to worry.”

“I can’t tell my boyfriend I want to see other people because he’d be upset.”

In other words: “I can’t tell you the truth because I don’t want to hurt you . . .”

You have probably used this reasoning yourself, as justification for not speaking your truth. I know I have. The irony is that in trying to “protect you” by not speaking my truth, I am lying to you. This causes enormous damage, not only to me, but to those I love, the very people I am trying to “protect”.

I first saw this with stunning clarity after my marriage ended. I realized (with the help of a good coach) that I had spent years withholding from my husband just how unhappy I was, because “I didn’t want to hurt him”. This withholding eventually led to the chain of events that ended our marriage. And of course, he was deeply hurt, despite my attempts to “protect him”. The truth will out eventually.

So I know first-hand the devastation that is caused when we don’t speak our truth out of fear of hurting or angering someone. The intention is good, perhaps, but it is based on an incorrect premise: That I am responsible for how you feel.

Our feelings are determined by our thoughts. Feelings are not “caused” by something outside of me.You don’t “make” me angry – I get angry based on my thoughts about what you’ve said or done.

A simple example:

Your ex is late (again) to pick up the kids. How do you react? With anger? (How can he be so inconsiderate of my time?) With worry?(I wonder if something awful has happened!) Or perhaps with pleasure? (This gives me a few more minutes with the kids). One action, three different responses, based on your interpretation of the event.

You are not responsible for my feelings. And am I not responsible for yours.

In his book NonViolent Communication, Marshall Rosenberg calls this confusion emotional slavery, where I think I’m responsible for your feelings, and I hold you responsible for mine. The path to emotional freedom, he says, is to remember whose feelings I AM responsible for – my own. I am responsible for generating them (by the thoughts that I think), understanding them, and learning from them.

The mistaken belief that I am responsible for your feelings (and you for mine) destroys my authentic self-expression and my sense of personal power. It makes me a “victim” of your actions. It keeps the truth hidden and stops the flow of Life. Out of fear of “hurting” you, I pretend that things are different than they really are. And you do the same with me. We are all lying to each other, out of a false belief that we are protecting one another from pain.

This I know:

When I withhold my voice, my truth, I betray myself. And when I betray myself, I betray you. So, the only way I can “hurt” you is by not being true to myself.

One last piece:

The other day, my lover admitted that he had kept something from me, because he thought it might upset me. This is my response: If I become upset by your truth… so what? I’m a big girl. I can handle a little upset. (Can you?) Don’t patronize me by “protecting” me from your truth. Give me the truth, and allow me my reaction. Let me make the best decisions for me, based on your truth for you. That is real love: honoring me enough to tell me the truth. Having the courage to face my reaction. Not “protecting me” with withholds.

The truth allows the future to unfold as it is meant to unfold. My mentor used to say: “The truth WILL set you free, but first it will piss you off.” Allow your loved ones room for their emotions in response to your truth. Be true to yourself, true to your loved ones, and true to the unfolding of Life.

~ Renee Cooper |

What Is Ascension?

Ascension is a shift in consciousness, a raising of all lower bodies ( physical, emotional, mental and spiritual ) to full awareness and presence in the NOW.

Ascension is the raising of consciousness to a new level of existence, a shift from 3rd dimensional reality to that of the 5th dimension and beyond.

Ascension is experienced when the four lower bodies are in perfect balance therefore in perfect union with your Higher Self / Soul. This occurs when all so called negative thoughts and emotions such as fear, hatred and anger are transmuted and changed to that of love, kindness and compassion.

Ascension is not a place but a state of Being.

Ascension is personal and planetary ascension. The Earth and all her inhabitants are in the process of transforming density into light, transforming our lower four bodies into a unified love / light field known as Lightbody.

Planet Earth is in the process of being transformed into a new Garden of Eden where love, unity and peace are the new norm.

Ascension is not the process of dropping your physical vehicle and leaving this physical realm in search for a better reality but the process of “getting in here” being fully in~bodied and alive, joyfully living and sharing this joy with others in turn assisting them to remembering who they truly are.

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